I found you online and decided to contact you via fb. My husband and daughter moved into this trailer park after purchasing our trailer. The neighbor to the right of us befriended us very quickly as the husband does the same kind of work mine does. The wife stays home. Recently I found out how big of a pill head they are and also how dishonest they truly have been with us.
It all started when they came to us stating they needed to borrow our water hook up because they were unable to pay their bill. It was only supposed to last for 2 weeks. Its been 6 months now. At first, they would now our lawn in exchange, and once cooler weather hit, the grass didn’t need mowing. So they gave us $20 a month. When our bill started becoming higher and higher, I asked they pay half which they did and also told them they needed to get their water cut on like responsible adults do.
About a week after this last discussion, our hot water heater fell thru our floor (which is located in our bedroom closet) and water began spraying everywhere in our bedroom! I cut the water off to keep from swimming. The very next morning at 6:40am the neighbors husband cut the water back on! Knowing why we had it off apparently didn’t matter. I went outside and asked what he was doing as he was getting in his truck to leave (with the water still on!!! ) He said he wanted to make coffee before work. After this….. I completely unhooked his hose.
Now, being that he works with my husband at this point, he and my husband talked and he promised to get his water on by the following Monday. After replacing the water heater, my husband allowed him to rehook to our water line.
Well, Monday morning rolls around, he leaves to go to the water company but is back in 10 min. (water company is at least 15 min. away) He tells my husband he paid the bill but no one could connect him for another week. I knew this was a lie so I called the water company and told them my situation. They said that if he had paid, someone would have been right out to connect him.
So, I once again until hooked him and dared my husband to read hook his lying ass.
Now he is hooked up to the neighbor behind us! And he has given them the same spill. Its been 2 weeks. I also informed the wife that they still owe us for last months bill and she is refusing to pay. She also had a dog chained up so close to our place that he keeps running under our trailer to chase our cats. I asked her nicely to chain her dog closer to her home. She moved him but the next day she put him back in the first spot and the chase was on again.
Now, we have fencing we are about to put up to keep her dogs on her property. But she is insistent that I keep my cats out of her yard which is nearly impossible to do. We do what we can.
This neighbor is so horrible, I’m pretty sure she has also stolen tools and food from our garden. She even went so far as to tell one of the neighbors that she knew who took our tools and went and got them back for us! Lies!
I’m at my wits end and my husband has the patience of a god.
I just don’t know what to do. These are some very horrible neighbors that need a lesson taught. One they can learn something useful from. Karma is late… Any advice?
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: you can’t choose your family and you can’t choose your neighbors!
But you should be allowed to live a life in peace without others demanding that you help them. Neighbors are friendly enough, to start (when they want something from you), but in fact they could care less about you because they’re wasteful, incompetent and just plain ready to take whatever they can get from you.
Sadly there are no easy answers for you to be free of this “neighbor abuse” unless you tighten up your own actions and refuse to play the “good neighbor game” with them.
So I’m going to give you some tips to protect yourself in the future.
- Borrower’s Contract
You should always have a “contract” or some other type of document detailing anything that you lend to someone. This should include the date of the item being borrowed and when it is expected to be returned; the type of item it’s make/model and serial numbers; the items current value; and finally what is owed if the item is not returned in the same condition or on time.
- Personal Possession Security
Your items should always be marked with an identifiable number so you can prove it’s yours. This can be in plain sight, clearly marked, or hidden using an ultra-violet ink. You may have to later prove an item is yours, whether to the neighbor or the police, so the markings will certainly help.
- Setting Traps
Neighbors may “borrow” something of yours without permission. Basically they are thieves. One of the things I’ve done in the past is buy some old tool from a garage sale, clean it up, take some pictures of it and box it up like it’s just been delivered to my front door. Then I leave it outside the front door (after properly marking it.) Random strangers don’t steal packages as much as neighbors do and this is a good way to find out how safe your neighborhood really is. You may also want to hide a GPS tracker in the box itself.
As far as getting your revenge the best thing at this point is for you to move forward. Assholes just don’t learn from their actions or care about how it makes you feel.
Just as you’d cut a family member out of your life that stole from you, so must you cut your neighbors out of your life. The good thing is that eventually you’ll be expected to forgive a family member, not so much for a bad neighbor.
Your revenge is in knowing that the misery they are living is karma kicking them in the ass and that you won’t be a victim any more.