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And Cheaters Get The Revenge Guy's Attention

Deception.

That is the hallmark of a truly evil person. Now, of course I'm not
talking about the type of people that I advise.

When you're done wrong you deserve closure, even if it's just
emailing me for a little consolation.

Maybe marriage (and living together) should have a 3 year cooling off
period. Then, after three years if things aren't working out the guy can
say "Well, it's been nice, but my girlfriends have been complaining
about the amount of time I spend over here" and just end the marriage
nice and cleanly.

But when you've been dating a person and it turn's out they're
cheating on their wife or husband and you didn't know, well there's
really only one thing to do. Read on to see what that is.

Cheaters and a Reconciliation

Hi RG

1. Six months ago my husband's best friend was dying of cancer.
While he was dying my husband and his friends wife began an affair
and my husband left me for her (the widow).

2. She was a friend of mine.

3. We knew each other for 3-4 years

4. A few but not many at all

5. I have her address and e-mail

6. Not a neighbor complaint

7. My husband and I have reconciled but she will not back off trying
to ruin our lives.

8. I am absolutely lost about what the best revenge is. Some kind of
public humiliation seems right though.

9. I have found peace in everything except knowing that she feels no
remorse over what she did to my family. In fact she is cruel. My
life was turned upside down and she is walking away unscathed.

Hi
Anon,
Your husband owes you big time. Make him pay until you
forget about "her".

Public humiliation? She was in an affair. Any type of
public acknowledgement will come back and bite you in the ass.

Marriage counselling. You need to trust your husband
again and you're not there yet.

Revenge?
Use www.revengecall.com and
call up her friends as if you were a private investigator, change
the caller id appropriately. Ask "the questions" about her and other
possible affairs and entanglements.

You're welcome!

RG

Hi RG
I was with a guy I knew from work and we got to dating.

He
had split up with his wife for 2 years, did not wear his wedding
band and lived in his own house. I asked him if he still had hang
ups about his wife and he said no.

All through our time together which was for 6 months he hid me away,
never met my friends, family and I never met his.

He was frightened at the thought of anyone seeing us which I did
comment on and tried to finish with him quite a few times but we did
not. I did not want his children to find out about us through a
third party so he was going to tell them on his terms at his house.
They got upset but he could not handle it and he changed after that
towards me.

We split up at the time my mother died and was not there for me even
as a friend and he said he was not ready for me to be his partner
and I was wondering what was I to him for 6 months??

I know all through his marriage he has been cheating on his wife and
the only reason he left was cause he had an affair, moved in with
this girl who was married, his wife did not even know. Her husband
found out and told his wife and the children got very upset as she
was shouting in front of them when her husband got home.

I knew this
and this is why I wanted the children told when I was seeing him as
not to cause any more shocks and pain for them at least.

I see the
picture now as I think he just used me for sex as that is one of the
reasons why he cheats on his wife he does not want her he stays for
the kids or so he says.

I lost a lot of weight through my mum dying
and him not being there for me as a friend, I feel used and I know
he has gone back with his wife.

I would like revenge but I do not
want to upset the children and I know he is going to cheat again and
again as he has done.

How can I get him back as I want to just deck him at the moment. He
has a good job and they all think he is fab but I think he is a
gutless man.
Help xx

Hi XX,
Yes, this ass is the lowest form of life.

There is a special place in hell for guys like this and this is how
you create it:

You know where he works, using
www.revengecall.com you can "spoof"
his work with calls from a lot of different girls, lots of different
caller Id's to hide where you are. the calls can't be traced. Keep
them "general rated" but make it apparent that he's dating a lot of
women. This will ruin his work reputation.

I don't suggest calling his house like that, his wife is already in
cheater's hell and the kids must be a mess too, no sense making that
any worse, even of you could.

If you know places that he goes, for dinner, a bar he hangs out at,
a gym he goes to, places he tries to pick up women, do the same.
leave messages for him everywhere. He'll soon get the bum's rush and
be barred from these places too.

Do it. Without remorse and without spite.
But do it.

RG

Dear
Revenge Guy,
You seem like a level-headed person–which I need right now.

My husband had a two-year on-and-off affair with a woman he met at a
religious center. I outed him three times by breaking into their
emails, etc.

He finally broke it off entirely. I've continued to audit her email
to make sure there's nothing going on, and there doesn't appear to
be, but she continues to entice men both married and single–to feed
her ego problems.

This woman plays men like fools and always has two of three that
she's stringing along.

My immediate problem is that my husband has returned to the
religious center–against my wishes, and I'm afraid the other woman
will show up. He claims that she's the last person he'd want to see,
but I still don't want her anywhere near him.

Do you have ideas of ways to keep her or him away from the center?
I've tried to think up a variety of ideas, including asking someone
to send my husband an anonymous email saying that there were rumors
circulating at the center about the affair. He'd be so embarrassed
that he'd never go back.

However, I have no one I feel right asking to do this.

I also anonymously emailed a member of the center and asked if she'd
agree to report back if she saw any interaction between the two of
them. She refused.
So, do you have any ideas????
Thanks.
Cindy-Lee

Hi
Cindy-Lee,
You must be very forgiving of your husband. Personally I would have
taken one of his thumbs as payment.

As far as getting someone to check up on them by asking
'anonymously', well that never works. I suggest one of two things:

1. Talk to someone in person to watch what's going on, someone you
can trust. The worse that can happen is you put your husband and
this tramp on alert that you are watching.

2. Start going to the religious center with him. Stop lurking in the
shadows.

If you still feel that you can't trust him (and who's blame you?)
kick him out once and for all. Never live with distrust in your
heart… take the bull by the horns and all that crap.

You don't need to go after this woman, she's digging her own grave.
Of course, sharing some straight words with the clergy, now there's
a great idea. They should be made aware of this "wolf in sheep's
clothing" if indeed that is what your husband is.

You have to remember, that church-going people tend to be very
trusting, and fraudsters and cheaters like that type of victim…
even if the other lady isn't consenting to more than prayer, you
husband sounds like he has other things on his mind.
Best wishes,
RG

Dear
Revenge Guy
My ex and I got back together briefly, and then
he dumped me for the woman he was with while we were apart.

She wouldn’t take him back if there had been anything between us. I
told her the truth.

Now my ex is telling everyone who will listen that I’m a crazy
obsessed psycho (which I’m not) and that nothing happened. Is it
illegal for me to snail mail copies of his "I love you" emails to
her and a few of his friends? Thanks a bunch!

Hi,
Hey, they are letters addressed to you, they are in your possession,
do with them what you want.

Personally, I’d scan them and create a website to post them, rather
than sending copies around.

The Internet never forgets!!

Best wishes,
RG

Dear
Revenge Guy
I wish the events I am about to tell you were
fabricated or at least enhanced, but if anything, they are
understated. I need your help…

Last year I dated this guy who I probably shouldn’t have dated in
the first place and probably no woman should ever date him. For the
first part of the relationship I was away at college, about a 45
minute drive from where said boyfriend, lets call him Assforface,
lived.
Well Assforface didn’t have a car (or license for that matter) and
couldn’t come visit me that often, plus my schedule was really
demanding and I couldn’t always go visit him. He bitched about this
a lot, always saying how hard it was on him etc, etc, etc, it was
always about how things affected HIM meanwhile he was the one to who
wanted to date me in the first place knowing very well I was going
to be at school. I was suspicious of his actions during this time a
lot because I was warned (after I started dating him) that he had a
tendency to be a flirt and had a history of cheating.

Time went on and little suspicious things occurred, especially
things regarding his ex-gf who he had dated for 3 years prior to me.
Regardless I still went on being the best girlfriend I could be, I
stood by him while he was unemployed, my grades suffered because I
took every free chance I got to spend it with him, I learned to cook
his favorite meals, I cleaned his room (he lived and still lives in
his mom’s basement), he even managed to coerce me to take his
clothes to the dry cleaning and I’m not even going to tell you the
extent to which I went to please him in the sack. After all this I
started to notice that I was getting little to nothing in return.

He lied to me almost constantly, we would never tell me anything
about his sexual history, and treated me like a doormat. He never
even took me on a single date where he paid, claiming that he was
broke, but when the weekend came along he always seemed to have
enough money for booze, dvds, and tacky running shoes.

Summer came along and with me being back in the city I started to
notice how much he would blow me off to go party at clubs with dumb
whores. I even caught him once fondling his friend’s breast right in
front of me – he was drunk as usual. He promised me that he would
stop drinking… one of the many empty and unfulfilled promises he
force fed me. Finally after an incidence where Assforface was soooo
drunk he nearly crushed me in bed (he was upwards of 280lbs) but
thank god he did because if he hadn’t fallen on me I wouldn’t have
gotten out of bed and probably would have fallen victim later that
night to getting pissed on, yes, the drunk chubby f-ck pissed the
goddamn bed. It was around this time I really got fed up and started
re-evaluating the whole relationship. The last straw happened a week
later when I was so sick, my throat was actually bleeding, and I
needed him to do one tiny favor for me and he couldn’t because he
"was going out with the boys" which meant he was getting loaded and
going to the sleaziest bar in town to hit on whores who wouldn’t
want anything to do with him if they weren’t trashed off red bull
and vodka. I dumped him before he left to go out, it was pretty
epic, I slammed the door and everything.

Somehow this manipulator managed to maintain a friendship with me,
and he still talks to me to this day and constantly asks me to hang
out with him. I never do obviously. However, I recently got wind of
some news from an extremely reliable source that Assforface admitted
to sleeping with prostitutes and claiming that he is in fact still
in love with his ex-GF, the one he dated before me for three years,
therefore making our whole fiasco of a relationship just one, big,
fat-ass lie.

Obviously the fact that this man slept with prostitutes, neglected
to tell me and put my whole physical well being at risk is more than
solid grounds for sweet, devastating revenge. The fact of him still
being in love with his ex is just the cherry on top of a heaping
pile of bullshit sundae. Needless to say this man needs to pay. Now
I could go on talking about how he cries like a little girl on a
regular basis about his self image, how he has a small penis, how he
pissed the bed, how he has to resort to paying for sex, or how he is
so lazy and self centered that he neglected to go see his own father
on his deathbed because he "was too tired", but spreading those
rumors just makes me look petty and angry. I need revenge that is
epic, classy, and puts me on top. Please help.
Sincerely yours,
BitterExforGoodReason

Hi
BitterExforGoodReason,
You certainly paid dearly for a relationship with someone that never
cared for you, eh?

Well, revenge of this type is rather straight forward.

He still lives with Mommy? Send her notes that say what her son
really does with the money she gives him.
Find his friends online (Facebook, MySpace, etc) and anonymously (a
new account for this purpose is needed) post sex tales about their
dear fat friend.
Add some skank stories for his ex-gf too.

You’re coming out on top will be the complete shattering of this
ass’s life, which will come down like a house of cards.
And should he ever want to talk to you again, just tell him that men
of such small girth don’t talk to women like yourself. And lean in
and whisper "And you don’t really fit in here, you know."
Best wishes,
RG

Dear
Revenge Guy
I had been living with a man for 7yrs, I was very
much in love with him.

We had in the past few years been purchasing things for our wedding
when we had extra money. I had bought the dress, decorations and we
had already gotten the marriage license.

The end of November he told me he wanted us to go ahead and get
married, we started looking for houses and had even been talking
with a realtor. I told my friends and family.

December 5th he
walked out our door and would not speak to me. Within two weeks he
had moved a woman into the house he bought on his own, a woman he
worked with on his first shift job.

This has devastated me beyond belief.

We work in the same industry within a 1/4 mile of each other and see
and deal with many of the same people. I have know these people for
years!

Since he left he has brought her on his job and introduced her to
his co-workers which many of them are my friends. He is telling
people that the reason we split was because "I" cheated on him, and
that I am an abusive alcoholic. Neither is true!!

I have not even been out to eat with a man since he left. This has
hurt me more than anything, to know he is trashing me to make his
self look like the innocent victim after what he has done to me.

I need all the suggestions you can give me. The hurt is over, it has
finally sunk in what he has done to me. I want to make them both
miserable. Please help me.
Traci

Hi
Traci,
The man has no excuse for the lies he put you through.
What I’d do is plan a sale of all his things, all the wedding items.
List everything.
Plan the sale for a specific date and do it.
And make sure all your co-workers and friends understand the reason
for the sale, how this guy lied to you.

You may not regain some of them as friends, but a lot of them will
see this lying bastard for who he really is.

And with the money earned from the sale, take yourself on a much
needed holiday.

And after 7 years I know that you know
what his biggest fears are. I want you to plan the tragic demise of
his ego with care:
There will be a place and a time for you to strike. I like the idea
of using SpoofCard to place a call to him from whatever his real
fears are. Taxes, licensing, professional duties, whatever it might
be.

Make the call, be the badass on the
phone.

Just remember to use the ‘disguise
your voice’ option and to record the call. I’d love to hear a copy
of it.
Best wishes,
RG

Dear
Revenge Guy
My best friend of 11 yrs just cheated on me with
my boyfriend of 7 yrs!

In anger I told her family what she had done which she begged me not
to do because they would be disgusted with her and they were.

I then waited a week for things to cool down. I rang her because I
needed her to tell me why she did it and say sorry but to my
surprise she went off at me and said I was basically the worst thing
in the world for telling her family and that she never wanted to
speak to me again and told me to get over it! Then she hung up.

Well I was devastated. I was considering to forgive her if she had
she said sorry and explained why she did it with my boyfriend but
after that she can go jump!

I need a way to show her she hurt me and that she is in the wrong
not me I’m really pissed with her for wrecking my life and not being
sorry for it. I want to make her pay! Can you help please?
Distraught

Hi
Distraught,
I’m sure she knows she hurt you. But why keep in contact with her
anymore? Don’t let revenge be a way to hold on to hating her.
Revenge is a cleansing experience. But don’t let her off scot-free
either!

Get a t-shirt made that says “Cheating Slut” on it and send it to
her. Make a few more with "Cheating Slut" and her name on them and
send them to her family.

And sell everything your boyfriend his to pay for a nice long
singles vacation for yourself. It takes two to cheat so I wouldn’t
be too quick to forgive him either!
Best wishes,
RG

Dear
Revenge Guy,
I have been taken big time by a guy who claimed
to be a friend, lover, future mate, mortgage broker. And he was living
with someone and only played up to me because he could talk me into
buying a condo and collecting a $16,000 fee which he told me he would
give back to me and of course didn’t. In actuality, he is living with
someone and told her I was a client, meanwhile he was sleeping with me,
and making all these promises and I was gullible enough to believe it.

Since then I contacted his girl friend,
posted a website, registered him with the cheaters websites, ordered I
don’t know how many magazines, arranged for a republican party at his
office, jammed his telephone, with his social security number ordered a
credit report and contacted all his creditors to let them know his
updated telephone numbers and addresses which caused him to lose his
internet connection, posted warnings on all the dating sites, got him
kicked off the dating sites, ordered repair persons to his (his
girlfriend’s) house, also pizza to his house and office, make
reservations at various restaurants, order estimates for various house
repairs, many many magazine subscriptions, ordered condoms and tampax
and catalogs to house and office. I plan to post his house for rent in
various laundromats, send dead roses, place some ads in the classifieds.

I really don’t like this s.o.b. and want
more. But it has to be kind of legal. PLEASE send more suggestions. I
want to make his life a living hell for a few years. His girlfriend is
too dumb to throw him out, even though he’s been screwing everything
that holds still enough, which unfortunately includes me. But she even
told me that there were credit card charges for brunches and so on on
HER credit card, which they obviously share.
Thanks,
Having fun!

Hi
Having fun,
I think you’ve handled everything marvelously.
The only thing I would add is a letter from a lawyer stating he is being
sued and brought up on charges of ‘rape by false promise’ by enticing
you to use him as an agent and him having sex with you under false
pretenses.

Heck, maybe even a real lawyer would be interested in this case.
Or at least a TV judge.

Best wishes,
RG

Dear Revenge Guy,
I LOVE your website and creative (and legal) ideas on retaliation. I
have always taken the high road (turned the other cheek) when I have
been wronged. Not anymore. I have never gone for revenge before but
I AM READY now and need your creative input.

I met "Micah" (not his real name) on a dating website. We met and
were immediately hooked on each other. Micah and I shared hours and
hours emailing and talking on the phone feeling a closer bond than
ever. His career was very demanding, so we only got to spend 3-4
hours together every 10 days or so.

He told me he had
been divorced for over 15 years and was a ‘loner.’ I became
suspicious of his honesty when he always had excuses for (a) not
meeting my family; (b) not introducing me to his friends/family; (c)
never had his driver’s license or biz cards with him when I would
ask to see them; (d) wasn’t listed in the general directory of
employees at the very major O&G company where he ‘allegedly’ worked.

He had made the
comment once that his work was his ‘wife’ and I was his ‘mistress.’
I didn’t want to play the ‘mistress’ role anymore, so after several
months together, I ended it. Today, I discovered that he is married,
and has been for some time. The bastard sucked me into an affair,
KNOWING I was seeking a long-term relationship and knowing how I
felt about seeing married men. He, not only lied about his marital
status, he lied about his last name (I found his ACCURATE last name
today, too, when I discovered he had a wife). Now, I know his name,
his address to his new home, his place of employment, his cell phone
number (work-related one), his AOL email address, and his wife’s
name.

RG, I was cheated on in my marriage of 20 years (which ended 5 years
ago). Two different women were kind enough to call me at work and
tell me that they had seen my husband with this particular woman in
public, behaving inappropriately. BOTH of these kind women said they
didn’t know me, but knew that if their husband was cheating on them,
they would hope someone would tell them and that is why they called.
I will always be grateful to those kind women.

I have made it
clear that I will have no part in associating with cheating husbands
because I believe in honoring other women’s marriages. I feel
compelled to contact Micah’s wife and give her hard copy evidence of
all the emails we shared (I kept all of them) – some of which are in
graphic pornographic detail.

If she doesn’t
already know she is married to a lying, cheating, bottom-feeder, she
should and I will sleep better at night knowing she can make an
informed decision in whether or not to continue her alliance with
him. I don’t think there are young children, but WHO KNOWS? So, I
don’t want to retaliate in any fashion that will cause emotional
hurt to any young children. I just want to make sure she knows of
this AND I want him to be so negatively impacted that he will think
twice before he pretends to be unattached and seeking a long-term
relationship again. Any suggestions?
Thanx,
A-Woman-Scorned

Dear
A Woman Scorned,
I think that revealing what has transpired between you and “Micah”
to his wife is the best move.

Whatever lies “Micah” has been using to deceive his wife should be
brought into the open.

He is the one
responsible for how negatively impacted his kids will be, if there
are any. Who knows, maybe they already are aware, in some way, about
their philandering father. This is not your fault.

Move forward, clear your conscious and bring all this to the light.
Spare his wife any more deception.

Make the right move.
Best wishes,
RG