How to Tell a Friend They are With a Cheater

Hi RG,
Please help me.

How could I get a message to the target person that they are being cheated on and ensuring that no one can trace it back to me. The person doing the cheating creeps me out and feels unsafe, but at the same time I think the target person needs to know.


Hi Friend,
I can only imagine how conflicted you feel, having this knowledge and needing to tell your friend without upsetting the friendship you have. The “bearer of bad news” in these situations rarely escapes unscathed.

What I would do, in your shoes, is create an email account at and send your friend an anonymous email message. Include as much details you can without revealing your identity.

Be very careful about how you phrase things, it’s easy to slip and provide information that only you might know about and give away your identity as the couple fights about the cheating and talk about the circumstances you describe.

I hope this helps!
Best Wishes, The Revenge Guy

Revenge Against The Other Woman

The Revenge Guy
Against The Other Woman By
The Revenge Guy

I get this question a lot, but am perplexed by them, usually. Like,
seriously, HE cheated on YOU and you want to KEEP him?

I'd have a few other things to say about that… but for now, here's
how you can get revenge on "the other woman", the girl your husband or
boyfriend cheated on you with.

She Thinks She's His Wife

Revenge Guy,

Like many of your readers, I have never even thought about revenge
before. But there is one particular slut who needs to pay for her

Please help with me ideas. I want to hit her as HARD as I can
without breaking the law, and I'll have help from a few friends too.

Here's the background:
She worked with my husband for a year at an addiction recovery
hospital (she works in HR, him on web design) … our marriage
wasn't doing well … they became friends..yadada – They had an
affair. He was fired, supposedly for reasons having nothing to do
with the affair (while it was going on). A couple of people at the
office knew. She was also engaged at the time, and sleeping with one
of her ex's while she was with my husband.

My husband and I decided to work out our marriage and he has done
everything he can possibly do to make up for his lapse in judgment,
he told me everything and wanted things with the slut to be over.
They were only more than friends for 3 weeks.

When he tried to beak it off via the phone, she refused to accept
and even a few more calls later to tell her it was over, was still
texting and calling (even when she knew he was with me), even
calling our house and demanding to talk to me. She completely acted
as if I was the other woman! She was demanding to meet with him in
person. She even had her fiend text my husband saying 'How could you
do this to my friend! I didnt think you were that kind of guy!'.

Eventually, our marriage counselor even conceded that if my
husband had no feelings for her, that it would be a not-bad idea for
him to just meet with her in person and tell her face to face, and
get it over with. She told him she could meet him at a certain time
at one of the casino cafe's on the strip (we live in Vegas and this
is very common to meet up on the strip, so I was ok with it). When
he got there, she manipulated him up to a suite she had rented ('I
wont stop calling if you dont come up with me') He tied to leave
several times but eventually she gabbed him and stripped down to
some lingerie and seduced him. They had never had sex before that
night. She knew it was over, she just tried to dive a wedge between
him and me (it didnt work). She planned everything from the time,
the place, the room, and the lingerie!

Then she tried to say she was pregnant…she's not, btw. And she
faked a couple trips to the ER to try and guilt him into seeing her.
It's been 5 months and she still texts him and holds the position
that he is a horrible person for not leaving his wife of 7 years!

I cant get over her audaciously desperate and slutty tactics. I
want to hit her at her job, her reputation, her pocketbook, her
relationships…everywhere I can. All I know about her is her name,
address, phone, workplace, where she went to school, her car and
whatever is on her facebook. Unfortunately no email and no SSN. I
also have her fiancé's phone number. Can I get her fired since they
started this affair there? I know her career is very important to
her, she lives with her mom (ya, she's young), her dad died. That's
about it. I know she is a miserable person in an unhappy life but
attitude that she was in and I was out, even when he was telling her
that the whole thing was a huge mistake, is unforgivable.

Thank you so much for you time and thought!!!
Upset in LV

Revenge JokerHi

I'd have shot your husband if I was you… seduced him up to a suite
and had sex with him against his will… Fuck me but I've heard a
lot of tales but that is the tallest!!

Anyways, you want him, you got him, warts and all.

As for the broad… start a campaign of phone calls to her work
using ,
it's untraceable, and you can spoof (change) the caller id to
anything you want, get your friends to help. A few dozen calls, with
lots of weird messages should do it.

And do the same for her fiancé, call him, leaving messages from
other guys for him to relay to her, mess them up good.

For Facebook?
Start a new account and use a different computer than home or work.
Post to her account as if you're a lean, hungry, horny hunk in her
town. Set up the account and all that, pictures too, with what you
can scrounge up.

Get her attracted to this mystery guy and set up dates with
her… never show up, but offer excuses why you couldn't be there,
set up more dates… during the day, a working day for her, lunch
times, etc.

Keep her hooked and on the run for this hot guy!

I hope this gets you started!

I hope this helps,

They Owe Me Money

The Revenge GuyHow To Get Revenge When You Don't Get Paid Back
$$ From
The Revenge Guy

Friggin' deadbeats.

The trick is easy. Because it's you. Sure, they seemed to be a
friend. They were nice but always in some kind of trouble. They never
had a good paying job.

Just scraped by. It's a good thing you were there when they were in
need of a loan. But you didn't think enough to get them to sign a paper
saying you loaned them the money.

Now they won't pay you back. What's a person to do?
Read on….
[RG note: Always, always, get loans in writing!]

When you're a good friend and loan a friend some money, then
don't get paid back… ouch! Read

Revenge Guy,

Well, I am another person who has gotten screwed….

I loaned a friend of mine 2K almost 3 months ago. I did have him
sign a promissory note. He said he would pay me back in 2 weeks. I
have several text message from him saying he was going to pay me
blah, blah, blah… I have come to realize that he is a con and now
I am not sure what to do.

Small claims court is $400.00 (ouch!) His cell phone is no longer
working, I just found out that the house he lives/lived in is not
even owned by him… Lie after lie….

We do have some of the same friends and I plan on opening the can
of worms on him this weekend. I was wondering if I could file a
police report on him. I live in New Orleans, LA and If I can file a
police report, what good does it do me? I am considering sending my
loss to a collection agency as they only take money from what is
collected. Please advise…..


Revenge JokerHi

Confrontation only works when the person is afraid of being outed in
front of others. So feel free to try it but watch your back! Snakes
often try to bite when scared into something they weren't prepared

Start with some small talk with your mutual friends, see if they
have had similar experiences with him.

Then the outing, say it ;like it's just a thought that popped
into your head like "Oh, by the way John, your check is due for the
2k I loaned you… do you have it with you yet?"

No matter what, don't accept any promises, this was his chance to
make immediate payment.

Monday, send it to a collection agency. You'll lose more than the
$400.00 but you'll be more certain of getting paid.

It's terrible when you help a friend out and do all the right
things like getting a promissory note, and you still get screwed. So
screw back!
Good luck,

Dear Revenge Guy,

About 10 months ago I lent some friends from out of state $2000.00.
The loan was for their mortgage and car payment. The one friend
"Tina" I have known for over 10 years. Her new husband "Tommy" was
the one that convinced me that they were good for it. And "Tommy"
told me he did not want to ask "Tina’s" parents, because it was

"Tina" guaranteed
they were good for it. Besides, they own a house in a lake
community, have a boat, large screen plasma t.v, both have good
jobs, blah blah blah.

So, they kept
giving me the runaround forever.

Kept telling me
they had checks in the mail, only for me to send off MY bills
thinking that I was going to receive their check. Which I never did!
And had late fees on bills too.

I’d call and call
and call for weeks until one of them would answer and say they were
sorry sorry sorry, they have had a bad financial situation and never
got my messages. Yea right. I finally decided, enough was enough. I
gave them an ultimatum and the time came and passed. What is your
Thanks X 1000!

Revenge JokerHi

I certainly hope that you got this loan in writing. Then sue them.
They know to ignore you to easily avoid you, so make a legal case
out of this.

If you don’t have the loan in writing now is the time to do it. Or
get a recording of them on the phone agreeing to make payments.

Then send them a
polite letter with repayment terms spelled out on it. You’re
starting over to collect your money, etc…

Get their
signatures on it and try to start collecting again.

Once they miss
their payments again then you will have a legal basis to sue them
and ruin their credit rating, should they have one left. It’s true
though, people that make a lot of money spend even more, no savings,
nothing to fall back on except for friends that make a lot less but
have money in the bank.

Teach them a legal and financial lesson, that is what you must do.

It may mean waiting a little longer for your money, but the option
is kissing it goodbye forever.
Not a great choice of options here.
Best wishes,
The Revenge Guy

Dear Revenge Guy,

I’ll tell u the whole story if it means you can give me some direct

This past February I was briefly involved with this guy. It was very
whirlwind! He convinced me to invest some money… it was $1000.
Afterward he said he had a "car accident" and I didn’t hear from him
again. I called and called and I finally got him. He told me he was
in the hospital. I got soft and felt sorry for him. Then he stopped
answering my calls. I got a friend to call and guess what… he
called her back (of course I heard).

Anyways, I put in a police report which they said I had to ask for a
"demand for payment". I e-mailed this to him because I didn’t know
his address (and he doesn’t know my exact one either). He called
back and denied the whole thing and said it’s my word against his…
I called him several times and it will look like harassment on my

I had the receipt of the withdrawal but the police said I can’t
prove anything because it was freely given and I did not make him
sign a receipt.

So you see revengeguy, I have no other recourse but to plan revenge
so that I can get this out of my system and move on!

Help me please to do this in the most effective and final way!

Hey the other information I do have on him is his e-mail, his cell
number and his license place number… tell me how I can use these
in my revenge!
Thank you in advance!

Revenge JokerHi

I feel your anguish!!

First with his email, (don’t do these things from your home/work
computer go to your local library or an internet café!) place some
online ads for stuff for sale cheap, roommates wanted, gay sex,
whatever you can think up.

Include his email,
and his cell phone number so he gets a lot of calls.
Put up posters too, around places like grocery stores, wherever they
allow public [postings. Create posters of work needed, roommates
wanted, whatever you like.
Just keep his cell phone really busy.

After a while,
since time has passed already… call him using,
which allows you to change your voice and the caller ID for the
phone, so you can talk about the money… start off with "Hey, how
are you? I’ve been thinking about you (be friendly, that will make
him drop his guard) …" and go from there. Casually mention the
money you loaned him… all he has to do is agree that he loaned you
the money and with, because you can record the call,
you now have proof to sue him for the money, have the police take
action, everything you need to complete your revenge.

You’ll get your thousand dollars back by his torture and need to
change his number!! Or by suing him and having the court take the
money from him!!
Best wishes,
The Revenge Guy

Dear Revenge Guy,

How do you get revenge on someone who owes you money, and they know
it, but refuse to pay you back?

Thank you!


Revenge JokerHi

The best way is to send them a letter that says PAY ME and add a few
dollars to what they owe you.
If they owe you $200.00, in the letter say it’s $500.00
If they owe you $2,000.00 make it $2,800.00

Along with the letter include an envelope that is already addressed
to you, complete with stamp. Most people will write back and say
it’s not $2,800.00 I owe you, it’s only $2,000.00.
Then you have a legal debtors note that you can use to sue them in

Otherwise, hassle them with letters, phone calls, emails, until they
somehow respond with an email or recorded message that you can also
take to court.

You’ll need to be
tricky to get the evidence to sue them, but that’s the right way to

Good luck!
Best wishes,
The Revenge Guy

Dear Revenge Guy,

So I am INCREDIBLY angry right now.

I loaned (who I
considered a good friend) $3200 in October of this past year because
he had just lost his source of income and couldn’t pay his bills and
his final month’s rent. We signed a promissory note, and he promised
to pay me back in a month (Nov. of 2006.)

Long story short,
he continued to jerk me around. He paid $1000 a few months ago, but
still owes me $2200. I finally threatened to take him to court and
he is supposedly sending me a check tomorrow, plus any late fees,
but we’ll have to see about that.

During this 6 month
expanse of time, he supposedly didn’t have the money to pay me back,
yet still managed to find the money to vacation to not only the
Virgin Islands, but Puerto Rico as well… and plans on taking a
trip next month to Germany. He also owns a Rolex. He obviously isn’t
lacking money, just the decency to pay me back what he owes.

He’s socially
awkward but thinks he’s impressive because he has money and uses the
internet to meet girls because he lacks the social skills to meet
them under normally (face to face.) I want SERIOUS revenge.
Got anything inspirational in mind? 🙂

Revenge JokerHi,
Honestly, if the next check is bad, head straight away to the
courthouse and sue him!

After that, I’m not sure what to do because of the lack of details.
Does he work? Play? Hang out regularly somewhere?
We you romantically linked?

Can you find him online and set up him with a bunch of fake dates?

(Hehe, if you could then I’d have a message waiting for him at the
date place saying “Changed my mind about dating you LOSER!”)

Send him a letter seemingly from the Homeland Security Department
saying he’s been placed on the “No Fly List” and they want an
interview with him.

You get the idea.
Best wishes,
The Revenge Guy

Dear Revenge Guy,

So here it is:
I help these people out, down on their luck with giving them over
250 man hours of work at $10.00 per hour, move them into a great
rental apartment with no security deposit (they have a kid and I
felt so bad for them that I paid the deposit), offer them furniture,
exercise equipment etc., and give them advice for everything they
throw my way.

The owners sell the
building they are living in and within 30 days the state comes and
checks them out for child abuse and/or drug making. Not sure which,
but I was more than surprised. I paid their security deposit for
them, with the agreement they would make payments back to me.

Well upon the
police jumping their home, they figure I called on them. Mind you, I
have nothing to benefit, and truly, don’t think anything is going
on. The new owner wanted them out, plain and simple. They had
designs on the place. Now, they won’t talk with me – flat out told
me to f*** off today, yet they got their security deposit back from
the new owner (mind you, I paid it). I want to give it back to them.
They know I didn’t do it, they just don’t want to pay the money
back. What do you suggest?
Good Gal Made Mad

Revenge JokerDear
Good Gal,

Send them a letter stating that they owe you double the amount.
Include an envelope that is already stamped and addressed to you.

When they right
back with a letter that says what they really owe you, it’s all the
evidence you need to go to court with.

Unless, of course,
you already have such a document for the loan you made them.
Take then to small claims court.

Best wishes,
The Revenge Guy

Dear Revenge Guy,

Okay, this revenge issue is twofold. Here’s the story. I have a
friend, excuse me had a friend who’s name is Fred, and we dated
for a while in the past and then I went away to school, but we
stayed friends.

I moved back home and we kind of flirted but he
was with someone so we just kept it platonic.

Anyway, he owns a
liquor store, well he owns one and his family owns several, and
he also does work on houses on the side. so anyway I was remodeling my house and I figured that he was the perfect person
to do it. He ended up subcontracting the work for my kitchen to
a friend of his.

His friend Julian is Hispanic and he did a
beautiful job making me custom built oak cabinets. For almost a
year I was paying my so-called friend money for the cabinets and
nothing seemed to be getting done. Allegedly they were being
worked on.

He probably got a total of $2,000 out of me. Then (I
sell real estate) I closed a really big deal and decided that I
was ready to move into my new house and I asked him how much it
would cost in order for my basement to get finished and the
kitchen cabinets.

He told me $6,700.00, labor and materials. I
gave him the money. $1700 in cash, (Julian, the Hispanic guy
allegedly only took cash, which I found out later wasn’t true)
and I gave him a cashiers check made out to him ( Fred) for
$5,000. Well anyway, a friend of his parents both died a week
and a half apart and he went out of town for almost a month
total to help his friend. When he came back his mom had heart
surgery and one of his employees at his store was out of town so
he was working nonstop. So I was trying to be understanding and

Anyway, long story short he picks a fight with
literally me for no reason one day and then we stop speaking
while he has all my money. The kitchen got almost, almost done
and I find out that he gave Julian a thousand dollars and never
gave him any more money.

So now Julian is sweating me to pay him
and Fred lied to him and told him that I never gave him any
money at all. So Julian has a key to Fred’s house and he wanted
us to talk to Fred together face to face, so we went over there.
Fred lives in this loft above the bar that he owns, anyway, we
go in and Fred sees us on the security camera so he refuses to
get off the phone and talk to Julian because I am there.

Me and
Julian go wait downstairs in the bar and I see that Fred’s car
keys are on the other side of the bar out of the security
camera’s view, so I take his keys, which go to his truck, the
bar, the liquor stores, his kids mom’s house, his parents house,
basically his whole life. So he calls me later asking if I have
them and I say if he has my money I have his keys, but that he
cant have them back until I get my money.

Well, my mom starts
pressing me to give the keys back saying that I need to hot piss
him off in case he does something to my house or my truck or
whatever. So I go to his house and I give him the keys in
exchange for a check for 3,000. He was allegedly going to give
me the rest later.

And the next morning I go to the bank and the
check is no good. So I go to the liquor store and he screams and
yells at me and basically says, "fuck me" he’s not paying me.

I’m sure by now you’re thinking sue him. well, the thing is, I
was moving into my new house and I have no idea where my copy of
the cashiers check is. I tried to go to the bank and get a copy
and from looking through their books with a teller and a manager
it appears that a whole batch of cashiers checks are missing
including the ones that I wrote around that time. So I have
nothing to go to court with.

Now I discussed this entire
scenario with my two-faced cousin and I even thought about
photo-shopping a new cashiers check and making a copy of it to
take to court. (totally illegal I know) anyway, my
cousin/ex-best friend has the audacity to call Fred and tell him
that I lost the cashiers check. (she’s a slut I think she’s been
trying to sleep with him) anyway, so he knows I don’t have the
check and all I have is the bad check that he wrote me for
$3,000. I looked at the website and I thought that nothing
seemed fitting to cover almost $9,000.00 worth of revenge and I
don’t have a case that will stand up in court. he has no grass,
so I cant spell out thief in it and besides both his house and
the liquor store are covered in cameras.

I thought about the
coupon thing but their liquor store is like the ghetto type
where they make a ton of money but they wouldn’t have the type
of customers that would like complain to the BBB or anything
they would just gripe and leave.

So now I’m screwed for an idea.

Revenge JokerHi,
First off, take a breath.

I’m sure you’ve been sweating this a bit but seriously, you sell
real estate and didn’t have a contract with this guy, even if he
was a friend?

And you paid
him in advance for the whole job after he took a year to finish
the first job you gave him to do?

Slow down and let’s get professional about this whole thing, OK?

First off:
You have the $3000.00 bad check.
Sue him over that.

As far as anything else, I’d just create a bunch of 50% off
coupons for purchases at XXX liquor store and let him sweat that

And from now on, anything that includes any sum of money, get it
in writing!!
And put that writing in your safety deposit box right away!
Best wishes,
The Revenge Guy


My name is Johnny and I have a long-time friend who’s been owing
me quite a lot of money I lent him on several occasions for
petrol about six months ago now.

He tells me he
can’t afford it at the moment but then he soon spends the amount
he owes me, or more, on a new set of brake discs for his car or

Quite frankly
he’s been a bit of a knob since he got with his whore of a
girlfriend anyway, I haven’t seen or heard anything from him for
quite a while now and whenever I try getting hold of him he
never bothers getting back to me, he only seems to bother with
me when he wants something. I need to finally stand up for
myself, how can I teach him not to take advantage of me again?


Revenge JokerHi

Just stand up for yourself.

The next time you see him hand him a written bill showing all
the money he owes you and from when.

Have him sign it.

Then tell him to start paying you apportion of it every week or
you’ll take him to small claims court.

To prove your case all you’ll need is the written note you now

And then stop taking his calls unless he has cash in hand.
Best wishes,
The Revenge Guy

Revenge Guy,

So I was working at this bed and breakfast on the weekends. It was very very
very hard work, I was working 12 hour days with no breaks, and there was only
one other employee.

After I had only worked there two weeks, she gave that employee
two weekends off in a row, while she was at the hospital tending to
a family matter, leaving me all by myself to run her b&b.

After 2 weeks of this and falling behind in my studies, I called
on a week day and said, I'm really sorry but the work is just too
hard for me and I wont be able to come back.

I called back on payday, she owed me 2 checks, one that she held
back the first week, and my last weeks pay. She told me I'm not
getting shit from her because I quit and I can go fuck myself.

Well since she paid me under the table, there is no way for me to
prove that I worked for her at all. This happened a couple of weeks
ago. This lady has a LOT of money by the way, and i worked my ass
off for that lil money that she owes me.

To her, it means nothing, to me, it means the world. I literally
have to skip school next week because I just don't have the gas
money to make it there and back. This happened 2 weeks ago.

She runs a bed and breakfast in weatherford texas called angel's
She lives at the bed and breakfast she runs. Her name is Candice

Her b&b is named Angel's Nest
The address is 1105 Palo Pinto St. Weatherford, TX 76086
Her business number is (817) 599-9600
Her cell phone number is 817-596-8295

I honestly just want my money back but that's not gonna happen.
She has a quick temper and is easily riled. she thinks she is always
right and treats customers shitty. I want her to lose lots of
business, and I want her to know its because of me, but I don't want
her to be able to file any charges on me.

I said a long time ago that I'm never gonna let anyone screw me
over again. I have a 3 year old son and this bitch took away from
him. I am suffering really bad because of the money that she owes
me. it wont improve my LIFE to get revenge on her, but dammit she
deserves it.

Revenge JokerHi
B&B Worker,

You're right, you're in a bad place. Working for cash means you take
the chance that you'll get screwed over for wages if something
happened. And something happened.

You've got all the info. Call her and tell her that it would be
awful if bad reviews of her place started showing up online. And to
pay you or else.

You have the power! (And so do I!)
Best wishes,

Lying Ex-Lovers

The Revenge Guy
And Cheaters
Get The Revenge Guy's Attention


That is the hallmark of a truly evil person. Now, of course I'm not
talking about the type of people that I advise.

When you're done wrong you deserve closure, even if it's just
emailing me for a little consolation.

Maybe marriage (and living together) should have a 3 year cooling off
period. Then, after three years if things aren't working out the guy can
say "Well, it's been nice, but my girlfriends have been complaining
about the amount of time I spend over here" and just end the marriage
nice and cleanly.

But when you've been dating a person and it turn's out they're
cheating on their wife or husband and you didn't know, well there's
really only one thing to do. Read on to see what that is.

Cheaters and a Reconciliation


1. Six months ago my husband's best friend was dying of cancer.
While he was dying my husband and his friends wife began an affair
and my husband left me for her (the widow).

2. She was a friend of mine.

3. We knew each other for 3-4 years

4. A few but not many at all

5. I have her address and e-mail

6. Not a neighbor complaint

7. My husband and I have reconciled but she will not back off trying
to ruin our lives.

8. I am absolutely lost about what the best revenge is. Some kind of
public humiliation seems right though.

9. I have found peace in everything except knowing that she feels no
remorse over what she did to my family. In fact she is cruel. My
life was turned upside down and she is walking away unscathed.

Revenge JokerHi
Your husband owes you big time. Make him pay until you
forget about "her".

Public humiliation? She was in an affair. Any type of
public acknowledgement will come back and bite you in the ass.

Marriage counselling. You need to trust your husband
again and you're not there yet.

Use and
call up her friends as if you were a private investigator, change
the caller id appropriately. Ask "the questions" about her and other
possible affairs and entanglements.

You're welcome!


I was with a guy I knew from work and we got to dating.

had split up with his wife for 2 years, did not wear his wedding
band and lived in his own house. I asked him if he still had hang
ups about his wife and he said no.

All through our time together which was for 6 months he hid me away,
never met my friends, family and I never met his.

He was frightened at the thought of anyone seeing us which I did
comment on and tried to finish with him quite a few times but we did
not. I did not want his children to find out about us through a
third party so he was going to tell them on his terms at his house.
They got upset but he could not handle it and he changed after that
towards me.

We split up at the time my mother died and was not there for me even
as a friend and he said he was not ready for me to be his partner
and I was wondering what was I to him for 6 months??

I know all through his marriage he has been cheating on his wife and
the only reason he left was cause he had an affair, moved in with
this girl who was married, his wife did not even know. Her husband
found out and told his wife and the children got very upset as she
was shouting in front of them when her husband got home.

I knew this
and this is why I wanted the children told when I was seeing him as
not to cause any more shocks and pain for them at least.

I see the
picture now as I think he just used me for sex as that is one of the
reasons why he cheats on his wife he does not want her he stays for
the kids or so he says.

I lost a lot of weight through my mum dying
and him not being there for me as a friend, I feel used and I know
he has gone back with his wife.

I would like revenge but I do not
want to upset the children and I know he is going to cheat again and
again as he has done.

How can I get him back as I want to just deck him at the moment. He
has a good job and they all think he is fab but I think he is a
gutless man.
Help xx

Revenge JokerHi XX,
Yes, this ass is the lowest form of life.

There is a special place in hell for guys like this and this is how
you create it:

You know where he works, using you can "spoof"
his work with calls from a lot of different girls, lots of different
caller Id's to hide where you are. the calls can't be traced. Keep
them "general rated" but make it apparent that he's dating a lot of
women. This will ruin his work reputation.

I don't suggest calling his house like that, his wife is already in
cheater's hell and the kids must be a mess too, no sense making that
any worse, even of you could.

If you know places that he goes, for dinner, a bar he hangs out at,
a gym he goes to, places he tries to pick up women, do the same.
leave messages for him everywhere. He'll soon get the bum's rush and
be barred from these places too.

Do it. Without remorse and without spite.
But do it.


Revenge Guy,

You seem like a level-headed person–which I need right now.

My husband had a two-year on-and-off affair with a woman he met at a
religious center. I outed him three times by breaking into their
emails, etc.

He finally broke it off entirely. I've continued to audit her email
to make sure there's nothing going on, and there doesn't appear to
be, but she continues to entice men both married and single–to feed
her ego problems.

This woman plays men like fools and always has two of three that
she's stringing along.

My immediate problem is that my husband has returned to the
religious center–against my wishes, and I'm afraid the other woman
will show up. He claims that she's the last person he'd want to see,
but I still don't want her anywhere near him.

Do you have ideas of ways to keep her or him away from the center?
I've tried to think up a variety of ideas, including asking someone
to send my husband an anonymous email saying that there were rumors
circulating at the center about the affair. He'd be so embarrassed
that he'd never go back.

However, I have no one I feel right asking to do this.

I also anonymously emailed a member of the center and asked if she'd
agree to report back if she saw any interaction between the two of
them. She refused.
So, do you have any ideas????

Revenge JokerHi

You must be very forgiving of your husband. Personally I would have
taken one of his thumbs as payment.

As far as getting someone to check up on them by asking
'anonymously', well that never works. I suggest one of two things:

1. Talk to someone in person to watch what's going on, someone you
can trust. The worse that can happen is you put your husband and
this tramp on alert that you are watching.

2. Start going to the religious center with him. Stop lurking in the

If you still feel that you can't trust him (and who's blame you?)
kick him out once and for all. Never live with distrust in your
heart… take the bull by the horns and all that crap.

You don't need to go after this woman, she's digging her own grave.
Of course, sharing some straight words with the clergy, now there's
a great idea. They should be made aware of this "wolf in sheep's
clothing" if indeed that is what your husband is.

You have to remember, that church-going people tend to be very
trusting, and fraudsters and cheaters like that type of victim…
even if the other lady isn't consenting to more than prayer, you
husband sounds like he has other things on his mind.
Best wishes,

Revenge Guy

My ex and I got back together briefly, and then
he dumped me for the woman he was with while we were apart.

She wouldn’t take him back if there had been anything between us. I
told her the truth.

Now my ex is telling everyone who will listen that I’m a crazy
obsessed psycho (which I’m not) and that nothing happened. Is it
illegal for me to snail mail copies of his "I love you" emails to
her and a few of his friends? Thanks a bunch!

Revenge JokerHi,
Hey, they are letters addressed to you, they are in your possession,
do with them what you want.

Personally, I’d scan them and create a website to post them, rather
than sending copies around.

The Internet never forgets!!

Best wishes,

Revenge Guy

I wish the events I am about to tell you were
fabricated or at least enhanced, but if anything, they are
understated. I need your help…

Last year I dated this guy who I probably shouldn’t have dated in
the first place and probably no woman should ever date him. For the
first part of the relationship I was away at college, about a 45
minute drive from where said boyfriend, lets call him Assforface,
Well Assforface didn’t have a car (or license for that matter) and
couldn’t come visit me that often, plus my schedule was really
demanding and I couldn’t always go visit him. He bitched about this
a lot, always saying how hard it was on him etc, etc, etc, it was
always about how things affected HIM meanwhile he was the one to who
wanted to date me in the first place knowing very well I was going
to be at school. I was suspicious of his actions during this time a
lot because I was warned (after I started dating him) that he had a
tendency to be a flirt and had a history of cheating.

Time went on and little suspicious things occurred, especially
things regarding his ex-gf who he had dated for 3 years prior to me.
Regardless I still went on being the best girlfriend I could be, I
stood by him while he was unemployed, my grades suffered because I
took every free chance I got to spend it with him, I learned to cook
his favorite meals, I cleaned his room (he lived and still lives in
his mom’s basement), he even managed to coerce me to take his
clothes to the dry cleaning and I’m not even going to tell you the
extent to which I went to please him in the sack. After all this I
started to notice that I was getting little to nothing in return.

He lied to me almost constantly, we would never tell me anything
about his sexual history, and treated me like a doormat. He never
even took me on a single date where he paid, claiming that he was
broke, but when the weekend came along he always seemed to have
enough money for booze, dvds, and tacky running shoes.

Summer came along and with me being back in the city I started to
notice how much he would blow me off to go party at clubs with dumb
whores. I even caught him once fondling his friend’s breast right in
front of me – he was drunk as usual. He promised me that he would
stop drinking… one of the many empty and unfulfilled promises he
force fed me. Finally after an incidence where Assforface was soooo
drunk he nearly crushed me in bed (he was upwards of 280lbs) but
thank god he did because if he hadn’t fallen on me I wouldn’t have
gotten out of bed and probably would have fallen victim later that
night to getting pissed on, yes, the drunk chubby f-ck pissed the
goddamn bed. It was around this time I really got fed up and started
re-evaluating the whole relationship. The last straw happened a week
later when I was so sick, my throat was actually bleeding, and I
needed him to do one tiny favor for me and he couldn’t because he
"was going out with the boys" which meant he was getting loaded and
going to the sleaziest bar in town to hit on whores who wouldn’t
want anything to do with him if they weren’t trashed off red bull
and vodka. I dumped him before he left to go out, it was pretty
epic, I slammed the door and everything.

Somehow this manipulator managed to maintain a friendship with me,
and he still talks to me to this day and constantly asks me to hang
out with him. I never do obviously. However, I recently got wind of
some news from an extremely reliable source that Assforface admitted
to sleeping with prostitutes and claiming that he is in fact still
in love with his ex-GF, the one he dated before me for three years,
therefore making our whole fiasco of a relationship just one, big,
fat-ass lie.

Obviously the fact that this man slept with prostitutes, neglected
to tell me and put my whole physical well being at risk is more than
solid grounds for sweet, devastating revenge. The fact of him still
being in love with his ex is just the cherry on top of a heaping
pile of bullshit sundae. Needless to say this man needs to pay. Now
I could go on talking about how he cries like a little girl on a
regular basis about his self image, how he has a small penis, how he
pissed the bed, how he has to resort to paying for sex, or how he is
so lazy and self centered that he neglected to go see his own father
on his deathbed because he "was too tired", but spreading those
rumors just makes me look petty and angry. I need revenge that is
epic, classy, and puts me on top. Please help.
Sincerely yours,

Revenge JokerHi

You certainly paid dearly for a relationship with someone that never
cared for you, eh?

Well, revenge of this type is rather straight forward.

He still lives with Mommy? Send her notes that say what her son
really does with the money she gives him.
Find his friends online (Facebook, MySpace, etc) and anonymously (a
new account for this purpose is needed) post sex tales about their
dear fat friend.
Add some skank stories for his ex-gf too.

You’re coming out on top will be the complete shattering of this
ass’s life, which will come down like a house of cards.
And should he ever want to talk to you again, just tell him that men
of such small girth don’t talk to women like yourself. And lean in
and whisper "And you don’t really fit in here, you know."
Best wishes,

Revenge Guy

I had been living with a man for 7yrs, I was very
much in love with him.

We had in the past few years been purchasing things for our wedding
when we had extra money. I had bought the dress, decorations and we
had already gotten the marriage license.

The end of November he told me he wanted us to go ahead and get
married, we started looking for houses and had even been talking
with a realtor. I told my friends and family.

December 5th he
walked out our door and would not speak to me. Within two weeks he
had moved a woman into the house he bought on his own, a woman he
worked with on his first shift job.

This has devastated me beyond belief.

We work in the same industry within a 1/4 mile of each other and see
and deal with many of the same people. I have know these people for

Since he left he has brought her on his job and introduced her to
his co-workers which many of them are my friends. He is telling
people that the reason we split was because "I" cheated on him, and
that I am an abusive alcoholic. Neither is true!!

I have not even been out to eat with a man since he left. This has
hurt me more than anything, to know he is trashing me to make his
self look like the innocent victim after what he has done to me.

I need all the suggestions you can give me. The hurt is over, it has
finally sunk in what he has done to me. I want to make them both
miserable. Please help me.

Revenge JokerHi

The man has no excuse for the lies he put you through.
What I’d do is plan a sale of all his things, all the wedding items.
List everything.
Plan the sale for a specific date and do it.
And make sure all your co-workers and friends understand the reason
for the sale, how this guy lied to you.

You may not regain some of them as friends, but a lot of them will
see this lying bastard for who he really is.

And with the money earned from the sale, take yourself on a much
needed holiday.

And after 7 years I know that you know
what his biggest fears are. I want you to plan the tragic demise of
his ego with care:
There will be a place and a time for you to strike. I like the idea
of using SpoofCard to place a call to him from whatever his real
fears are. Taxes, licensing, professional duties, whatever it might

Make the call, be the badass on the

Just remember to use the ‘disguise
your voice’ option and to record the call. I’d love to hear a copy
of it.
Best wishes,

Revenge Guy

My best friend of 11 yrs just cheated on me with
my boyfriend of 7 yrs!

In anger I told her family what she had done which she begged me not
to do because they would be disgusted with her and they were.

I then waited a week for things to cool down. I rang her because I
needed her to tell me why she did it and say sorry but to my
surprise she went off at me and said I was basically the worst thing
in the world for telling her family and that she never wanted to
speak to me again and told me to get over it! Then she hung up.

Well I was devastated. I was considering to forgive her if she had
she said sorry and explained why she did it with my boyfriend but
after that she can go jump!

I need a way to show her she hurt me and that she is in the wrong
not me I’m really pissed with her for wrecking my life and not being
sorry for it. I want to make her pay! Can you help please?

Revenge JokerHi

I’m sure she knows she hurt you. But why keep in contact with her
anymore? Don’t let revenge be a way to hold on to hating her.
Revenge is a cleansing experience. But don’t let her off scot-free

Get a t-shirt made that says “Cheating Slut” on it and send it to
her. Make a few more with "Cheating Slut" and her name on them and
send them to her family.

And sell everything your boyfriend his to pay for a nice long
singles vacation for yourself. It takes two to cheat so I wouldn’t
be too quick to forgive him either!
Best wishes,

Revenge Guy,

I have been taken big time by a guy who claimed
to be a friend, lover, future mate, mortgage broker. And he was living
with someone and only played up to me because he could talk me into
buying a condo and collecting a $16,000 fee which he told me he would
give back to me and of course didn’t. In actuality, he is living with
someone and told her I was a client, meanwhile he was sleeping with me,
and making all these promises and I was gullible enough to believe it.

Since then I contacted his girl friend,
posted a website, registered him with the cheaters websites, ordered I
don’t know how many magazines, arranged for a republican party at his
office, jammed his telephone, with his social security number ordered a
credit report and contacted all his creditors to let them know his
updated telephone numbers and addresses which caused him to lose his
internet connection, posted warnings on all the dating sites, got him
kicked off the dating sites, ordered repair persons to his (his
girlfriend’s) house, also pizza to his house and office, make
reservations at various restaurants, order estimates for various house
repairs, many many magazine subscriptions, ordered condoms and tampax
and catalogs to house and office. I plan to post his house for rent in
various laundromats, send dead roses, place some ads in the classifieds.

I really don’t like this s.o.b. and want
more. But it has to be kind of legal. PLEASE send more suggestions. I
want to make his life a living hell for a few years. His girlfriend is
too dumb to throw him out, even though he’s been screwing everything
that holds still enough, which unfortunately includes me. But she even
told me that there were credit card charges for brunches and so on on
HER credit card, which they obviously share.
Having fun!

Revenge JokerHi
Having fun,

I think you’ve handled everything marvelously.
The only thing I would add is a letter from a lawyer stating he is being
sued and brought up on charges of ‘rape by false promise’ by enticing
you to use him as an agent and him having sex with you under false

Heck, maybe even a real lawyer would be interested in this case.
Or at least a TV judge.

Best wishes,

Dear Revenge Guy,

I LOVE your website and creative (and legal) ideas on retaliation. I
have always taken the high road (turned the other cheek) when I have
been wronged. Not anymore. I have never gone for revenge before but
I AM READY now and need your creative input.

I met "Micah" (not his real name) on a dating website. We met and
were immediately hooked on each other. Micah and I shared hours and
hours emailing and talking on the phone feeling a closer bond than
ever. His career was very demanding, so we only got to spend 3-4
hours together every 10 days or so.

He told me he had
been divorced for over 15 years and was a ‘loner.’ I became
suspicious of his honesty when he always had excuses for (a) not
meeting my family; (b) not introducing me to his friends/family; (c)
never had his driver’s license or biz cards with him when I would
ask to see them; (d) wasn’t listed in the general directory of
employees at the very major O&G company where he ‘allegedly’ worked.

He had made the
comment once that his work was his ‘wife’ and I was his ‘mistress.’
I didn’t want to play the ‘mistress’ role anymore, so after several
months together, I ended it. Today, I discovered that he is married,
and has been for some time. The bastard sucked me into an affair,
KNOWING I was seeking a long-term relationship and knowing how I
felt about seeing married men. He, not only lied about his marital
status, he lied about his last name (I found his ACCURATE last name
today, too, when I discovered he had a wife). Now, I know his name,
his address to his new home, his place of employment, his cell phone
number (work-related one), his AOL email address, and his wife’s

RG, I was cheated on in my marriage of 20 years (which ended 5 years
ago). Two different women were kind enough to call me at work and
tell me that they had seen my husband with this particular woman in
public, behaving inappropriately. BOTH of these kind women said they
didn’t know me, but knew that if their husband was cheating on them,
they would hope someone would tell them and that is why they called.
I will always be grateful to those kind women.

I have made it
clear that I will have no part in associating with cheating husbands
because I believe in honoring other women’s marriages. I feel
compelled to contact Micah’s wife and give her hard copy evidence of
all the emails we shared (I kept all of them) – some of which are in
graphic pornographic detail.

If she doesn’t
already know she is married to a lying, cheating, bottom-feeder, she
should and I will sleep better at night knowing she can make an
informed decision in whether or not to continue her alliance with
him. I don’t think there are young children, but WHO KNOWS? So, I
don’t want to retaliate in any fashion that will cause emotional
hurt to any young children. I just want to make sure she knows of
this AND I want him to be so negatively impacted that he will think
twice before he pretends to be unattached and seeking a long-term
relationship again. Any suggestions?

Revenge JokerDear
A Woman Scorned,

I think that revealing what has transpired between you and “Micah”
to his wife is the best move.

Whatever lies “Micah” has been using to deceive his wife should be
brought into the open.

He is the one
responsible for how negatively impacted his kids will be, if there
are any. Who knows, maybe they already are aware, in some way, about
their philandering father. This is not your fault.

Move forward, clear your conscious and bring all this to the light.
Spare his wife any more deception.

Make the right move.
Best wishes,

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