Hi Revenge Guy,
I’ve been seeing this guy for 3 years. He’s been separated and living apart from his wife for 9 years now. She moved within a mile of him 2 years ago.
I think they have a “together living apart” relationship but he says they only see each other if they need to take care of something. Their only kid is an adult and lives out of state.
She just rented her condo out and they are selling a house they own together.
I strongly believe she’s staying with him and they are looking at buying a house to move into together.
He says there is a 0% chance of them getting back together.
My intuition is telling me otherwise due to all the evidence, example: her toiletries at his place.
I want someone to anonymously tell her he’s still cheating on her as he’s done in the past.
Please advise.
Anna.
Hi Anna,
This is a fine mess, isn’t it?
If I’m reading this correctly, your story goes like this:
- You’re dating a guy
- He’s separated and still sees his soon-to-be-ex to handle “life’s events” and nothing more
- She no longer has a “fixed address” type of place to live
- You suspect that he’s still living with his soon-to-be-ex-wife, the evidence you have is that there are women’s toiletries in the man’s house
- You want someone, not yourself, to intervene and tell the woman that the man is cheating on her (and that “her” is you)
- So you’re hoping that if someone tells the “soon-to-be-ex-wife” that she will dump him once and for all and you can have him all to yourself.
All I can say is that cheaters should never prosper.
Infidelity is its own reason for a life not well lived. And it seems to me that, because you know he’s not divorced yet, that you’re willing to be the woman that cheats on his “soon to be ex but current wife” and are hopeful that someone else will tell the “soon to be ex but current wife” what exactly is going on because you’ve seen the evidence of his cheating (although he’d actually be sleeping with his current wife and you’d be the one cheating with him!).
Is this some kind of “high road” fantasy of yours? Do you believe that by outing him to his “soon to be ex but current wife” you’ll be the better person and still keep him?
And do you believe that he’s worth enough to keep him?
As I said when I started answering, this is messed up.
Anyway, you have access to the house, you can basically do what you want to do to set up something where the “soon to be ex wife” (if that’s what she really is) discovers that her “soon to be ex husband” is seeing other women, namely you.
All you have to do is leave things behind too… and now that I’m thinking about it, maybe that’s what the “soon to be ex wife” is doing to let you know that he’s seeing her!
So your solution is “two can play this game”.
Or just get a second phone number and send her a text message, anonymously, of course.
Good luck in all things, I have a feeling you’ll need it.
Best Wishes,
The Revenge Guy
