Revenge On Co-Workers By The Revenge Guy
Bad experience with co-workers?
Got a bad job and bad people to work with? Not being allowed by others to do the job you were hired to do? The Revenge Guy has heard it all, and helped many get even!
Dear Revenge Guy
I read your suggestions for other people as you requested before sending this to you….. I need help badly…..
I will try to be brief: my ex-best friend left her husband a few weeks back and my husband and I helped her move in the middle of the night and opened our home up to her. We have been there for the past year with her up and down relationship. She has been cheating on him, but I never really said anything b/c I knew how unhappy she was. OK, so St. Patty’s day I wanted to go out and have some green beer with a friend and invited her to come along. She didn’t want to go, but told me to go ahead. I got dressed at her house and got ready to leave. Once at the door she began to scream at me and tell me what a horrible friend I was. I put it off as her just throwing a fit (which she had before) and left.
I went out and went home early that night. I came home to a very pissed off husband who had received a call from her telling him that I was having an affair. She even had my email address and password (I didn’t give it to her) and had sent emails from it that very day to men I didn’t even know. Let me also state for the record that I have been married almost 7 years and I have never been anything but faithful!
Now my marriage is fine, b/c we trust each other and I was able to prove that I was not able to write the emails that she sent that day b/c I was with him…. anyway.
Of course she is no longer my friend. I have not spoken to her and it has been a little over a week. The problem is that this anger I have is brewing……
I have to work with her and I have successfully avoided her for the past week, but now she is sending emails to people that I had in my email address book, telling them that I probably have a disease and stuff like that…… I am so back in high school!!!!!!! I have canceled my email and created an new one, but my friends haven’t……
I was trying to be the better person and not stoop to her level and sling dirt around the office and things like that, but I want to get her now and get her good….
Any ideas? Oh and I want to do this anonymously.
There really is no anonymous solution here. Not yet.
The first thing is damage control to your relationship and work friends. You’re handling that well and should continue it.
Make records of all the stuff she’s dome to you, emails that she’s sent impersonating you. Put dates and times to everything when possible.
Yhen call the police.
Surprisingly enough, using the internet to pretend to be someone else is illegal in many states and you have every right to contact the police and get their advice. Maybe even a lawyer if what she did is damaging enough to your reputation. I think you have the basis of a great legal case. Contact a lawyer after calling the police.
As well, take your evidence to your boss. Your employer must have a harassment policy. I’m sure she’s crossed the line.
Get her fired.
The hell with being anonymous, let yours be the last smile she sees as she loses more of her life because of her own thoughtless actions.
Narcissists should always have to face the music!
Ahhh… Sweet revenge.
The Revenge Guy
Dear Revenge Guy
I work in the IT field, and have worked in this field for nearly my entire professional career.
I know that any IT position requires dealing with those that are not technically inclined, which can be very difficult to deal with at times. However, my problem is not with an end-user, but a co-worker.
The co-worker in question is a woman, in a department where there are only three total. She’s devious and takes advantage of everyone and everything she can, and as often as possible. Her job performance is horrible, and for the life of me I can’t understand why she still has a job. Her hours are 8-5, but she couldn’t manage to make it to work by 8 in the morning, so our department manager moved her hours to 8:30-5:30. After several more months of her still arriving late, her hours were moved to 9-6.
It’s been several months since then and she still isn’t coming in “on time”, she arrives at 10:30-11:00, and still nothing has been done about it. Her job is development, however most of what she writes is buggy and doesn’t work and fails quite often. She’s complained about being worked “too hard”, and the department has hired a contractor to do her work for her now, in the guise of “helping her get caught up”. As if that wasn’t enough, the decision has now been made to hire her a full time assistant.
I can speak from my personal experience that there are many others in our department that are completely overworked, myself included. Working twelve hours a day, if not more, and then working from home is the norm, and to a certain extent I can accept that is just the way it is in my field. However, my job responsibilities continue to increase, and when I requested assistance, whether from a contractor, or temporary employee, I was turned down.
I’ve taken my complaints about her performance to my immediate boss, who has basically told me that they looked into letting her go and were told by HR that they can’t because she works her 40 hours a week. In several other conversations he has stated that she gets her work accomplished, which I know for a fact is a lie.
She does, however, suck up to my boss, and the department manager constantly, which I can only guess is the reason she’s still employed. To make matters worse, she has an intense dislike for me. I come in on time, do my work, and do my best at everything I do. I get the distinct impression that if I push my complaint up the chain, that somehow I’ll be the one fired.
What I want is for her to be fired from the company, or short of that, for her to quit. I like my job, and enjoy doing it, which I know most people can’t say, but she’s making it unbearable for me. I’m searching for new employment because of her, and will probably end up in a position that I hate, while she cruises on without a care in the world. Please help!
Frustrated IT Guy
Hi Frustrated IT Guy,
You certainly have been caught in a big black hole.
Having a worthless co-worker treated with kid gloves makes absolutely no sense whatsoever to me.
Maybe she is blackmailing the bosses?
I’d like to know too why she is “untouchable”.
Start there, find out all the facts without being found out that you are doing this.
Start a hidden dossier, and get help from others that are disgruntled about her unfair treatment, maybe they have some info on her that you are not yet aware of. Keep track of her comings and goings, missed work, everything you can think of.
Actual revenge on her will not work, because no matter what you do, unless the act takes place outside of work, you will be caught.
Although I would try to find her another job elsewhere… maybe even a few untraceable phone calls from a supposedly better employer offering her a job. Talk her up for a big pay raise, easier work hours, whatever it takes to make the job offer seem legitimate.
Then get her out of the office for this job interview that doesn’t exist!
There may be other ways to get your revenge but I think this is the safest and will reflect very poorly on her current work record should she miss work for this.
It could be the straw that broke the camel’s back!
The Revenge Guy
Dear Revenge Guy
I have been a Paramedic for over 20 years.
After this many years I started working for company that had a slower work day. I was referred to this company by a friend. I set up an interview 2 days after I called.
At the interview the “boss” said I came highly recommended by 5 other medics. I started the next day. I was working for the company 30 days. On the 30th day I was 2 hours into my regular shift when the “boss” called me to his office. He told be I was a good employee, did an excellent job, always put my patients first but that he had to let me go. He offered no other explanation. He just told me to go “chew” on it for awhile.
I asked what I did wrong. He said he was going to just leave it at that. I applied for unemployment benefits and was denied based on “insubordination”. The reason given to me by the unemployment office was a statement by my boss that he gave me a call and that I refused to take the call. In 20 years I have never refused a call nor would I ever refuse a call.
I emailed my boss to get the names and contact info. for the owners since they are the next people in step above my boss. There is no one else above him except for the owners. He has refused to give me the info and all my internet searches for them gets me no where. My boss asked why I wanted the info and I explained that I wanted to tell them what happened and file a complaint. I also told my boss what was told to me from the unemployment office. He emailed me back that he never said any of that. I have a copy of the statement and it does state that he said I refused to take a call. He again emailed me that he never said that. I called him a liar. Both he and the HR dept. will not give me the owner’s contact info. I so want to get back at him and/or the company.
Thanks, TX medic
Hi TX Medic,
I think you certainly have a case that a lawyer should look into.
Go to your local city hall and check the business license bureau. The business license may have the information you seek, or at least give you a great starting point to find the owners.
And really, have a talk with a lawyer. I have a feeling that you were shortchanged on your employment opportunity by being hired under false pretenses, “i.e. they didn’t intend to keep you on after the initial employment period”.
A letter from a lawyer to that effect will likely cost you a couple of hundred dollars but start a great fear of civil action in him and the company.
And tell everyone what happened to you.
In your business reputation is everything. Keeps yours by staying legal in this case, unless you’re ready to start over in a new career, in a new state.
Revenge would be simply letting this case die out, finding new work, then slamming this ex-boss of yours through various online websites. Maybe creating posters that have discounts or clinics for the needy, something that will draw a lot of unneeded people to the companies front door. Something that can’t be traced back to you.
The Revenge Guy
Dear Revenge Guy
I pored through your site looking for some advice on how to handle some ex- coworkers but didn’t find anything that really would get the results I’m looking for.
I *used* to work for a well known doctor in a large city. The office manager has no previous experience managing people and the job fell in her lap when the previous manager left. She is a HORRIBLE manager and is borderline schizo in my opinion. She randomly yells at people and will not handle staffing issues. She refuses to listen to legitimate complaints and work related issues.
She is very close with the 22 year old girl that answers the phone and they have a very inappropriate work relationship. I’ve had previous run-ins with the younger girl because she likes to tell everyone else how to do their job even though she has no degree, no previous medical experience, and barely managed to graduate high school before having a child through a drunken one night stand.
Patients were always complaining about her and praising me. I had called in sick on a Monday (first time in 9 months) and when I showed up the next day, I was being treated like a leper. Imagine my surprise when I came in to be told I was being let go. Why I asked? Because I had been late to work 5 times in the past year. I asked to see my timesheet proving this. She showed me quickly a page that had 5 highlighted sections. 3 of them were previously scheduled absences (Dr Appts that were APPROVED!) and the other 2 were clock-ins that were 2 minutes late. She also said that I had not made up patient charts for the day before clinic. I explained that I had done the entire week before I left Friday. It didn’t make sense that I would make Tue-Fri and not Monday. I, of course, can’t PROVE that I did them.
Now I’m out the door and strangely relieved. I sent several applications out but after the first interviews I wasn’t getting called back. I checked with a friend at one place who told me that the receptionist was the one verifying my employment and was saying nasty things about me. I filed a complaint with the state but that moves slowly and I want to add a personal touch to the sleazy office manager who unfairly fired me and her little sidekick. I’ve thought about the magazine subscriptions and having porn site emails done and whatnot, but it’s just not satisfying enough. Have any good suggestions?
Dave (Just called me Blacklisted ? )
I have to agree with you, porn emails are not enough, heck, they aren’t even a good start.
Step one of your revenge:
Have a appointment with the boss, the doctor and have a real discussion about why you were let go and the avenues of recompense that are available to you. He should already be aware of the complaint you have lodged with state employment and be willing to talk.
Record everything. Write it all down, keep a micro-recorder with you, turn it on.
As for a personal touch, if this was me, I’d stand outside the building talking with patients. Have them sign a petition about how great a person you were and how they feel badly for you being treated this way.
Create a little public commotion.
As long as you have an honest record you should bear this out well. Heck, call a TV news station to watch your one-person protest.
And for complete revenge I’d overload the phone answerer with calls to the awful manager with pleads for help from people that have read a poster you put out offering high dollar employment with no experience. let her fend that off for a while.
The Revenge Guy