On Co-Workers By The Revenge Guy
Bad experience with co-workers?
Got a bad job and bad people to work with? Not being allowed by
others to do the job you were hired to do? The Revenge Guy has heard it
all, and helped many get even!
I read your suggestions for other people as you
requested before sending this to you….. I need help badly…..
I will try to be brief: my ex-best friend left her husband a few
weeks back and my husband and I helped her move in the middle of the
night and opened our home up to her. We have been there for the past
year with her up and down relationship. She has been cheating on
him, but I never really said anything b/c I knew how unhappy she
was. OK, so St. Patty’s day I wanted to go out and have some green
beer with a friend and invited her to come along. She didn’t want to
go, but told me to go ahead. I got dressed at her house and got
ready to leave. Once at the door she began to scream at me and tell
me what a horrible friend I was. I put it off as her just throwing a
fit (which she had before) and left.
I went out and went home early that night. I came home to a very
pissed off husband who had received a call from her telling him that
I was having an affair. She even had my email address and password
(I didn’t give it to her) and had sent emails from it that very day
to men I didn’t even know. Let me also state for the record that I
have been married almost 7 years and I have never been anything but
Now my marriage is fine, b/c we trust each other and I was able to
prove that I was not able to write the emails that she sent that day
b/c I was with him…. anyway.
Of course she is no longer my friend. I have not spoken to her and
it has been a little over a week. The problem is that this anger I
have is brewing……
I have to work with her and I have successfully avoided her for the
past week, but now she is sending emails to people that I had in my
email address book, telling them that I probably have a disease and
stuff like that…… I am so back in high school!!!!!!! I have
canceled my email and created an new one, but my friends
I was trying to be the better person and not stoop to her level and
sling dirt around the office and things like that, but I want to get
her now and get her good….
Any ideas? Oh and I want to do this anonymously.
There really is no anonymous solution here. Not yet.
The first thing is damage control to your relationship and work
friends. You’re handling that well and should continue it.
Make records of all the stuff she’s dome to you, emails that she’s
sent impersonating you. Put dates and times to everything when
hen call the police.
urprisingly enough, using the internet to pretend to be someone
else is illegal in many states and you have every right to contact
the police and get their advice. Maybe even a lawyer if what she did
is damaging enough to your reputation. I think you have the basis of
a great legal case. Contact a lawyer after calling the police.
As well, take your evidence to your boss. Your employer must have a
harassment policy. I’m sure she’s crossed the line.
Get her fired.
The hell with being anonymous, let yours be the last smile she sees
as she loses more of her life because of her own thoughtless
Narcissists should always have to face the music!
Ahhh… Sweet revenge.
The Revenge Guy
I work in the IT field, and have worked in this
field for nearly my entire professional career.
I know that any IT position requires dealing with those that are not
technically inclined, which can be very difficult to deal with at
times. However, my problem is not with an end-user, but a co-worker.
The co-worker in question is a woman, in a department where there
are only three total. She’s devious and takes advantage of everyone
and everything she can, and as often as possible. Her job
performance is horrible, and for the life of me I can’t understand
why she still has a job. Her hours are 8-5, but she couldn’t manage
to make it to work by 8 in the morning, so our department manager
moved her hours to 8:30-5:30. After several more months of her still
arriving late, her hours were moved to 9-6.
It’s been several months since then and she still isn’t coming in
"on time", she arrives at 10:30-11:00, and still nothing has been
done about it. Her job is development, however most of what she
writes is buggy and doesn’t work and fails quite often. She’s
complained about being worked "too hard", and the department has
hired a contractor to do her work for her now, in the guise of
"helping her get caught up". As if that wasn’t enough, the decision
has now been made to hire her a full time assistant.
I can speak from my personal experience that there are many others
in our department that are completely overworked, myself included.
Working twelve hours a day, if not more, and then working from home
is the norm, and to a certain extent I can accept that is just the
way it is in my field. However, my job responsibilities continue to
increase, and when I requested assistance, whether from a
contractor, or temporary employee, I was turned down.
I’ve taken my complaints about her performance to my immediate boss,
who has basically told me that they looked into letting her go and
were told by HR that they can’t because she works her 40 hours a
week. In several other conversations he has stated that she gets her
work accomplished, which I know for a fact is a lie.
She does, however, suck up to my boss, and the department manager
constantly, which I can only guess is the reason she’s still
employed. To make matters worse, she has an intense dislike for me.
I come in on time, do my work, and do my best at everything I do. I
get the distinct impression that if I push my complaint up the
chain, that somehow I’ll be the one fired.
What I want is for her to be fired from the company, or short of
that, for her to quit. I like my job, and enjoy doing it, which I
know most people can’t say, but she’s making it unbearable for me.
I’m searching for new employment because of her, and will probably
end up in a position that I hate, while she cruises on without a
care in the world. Please help!
Frustrated IT Guy
Frustrated IT Guy,
You certainly have been caught in a big black hole.
Having a worthless co-worker treated with kid gloves makes
absolutely no sense whatsoever to me.
Maybe she is blackmailing the bosses?
I’d like to know too why she is “untouchable”.
Start there, find out all the facts without being found out that you
are doing this.
tart a hidden dossier, and get help from others that are
disgruntled about her unfair treatment, maybe they have some info on
her that you are not yet aware of. Keep track of her comings and
goings, missed work, everything you can think of.
Actual revenge on her will not work, because no matter what you do,
unless the act takes place outside of work, you will be caught.
Although I would try to find her another job elsewhere… maybe even a
few untraceable phone calls from a
supposedly better employer offering her a job. Talk her up for a big
pay raise, easier work hours, whatever it takes to make the job
offer seem legitimate.
Then get her out of the office for this job interview that doesn’t
There may be other ways to get your revenge but I think this is the
safest and will reflect very poorly on her current work record
should she miss work for this.
It could be the straw that broke the camel’s back!
The Revenge Guy
I have been a Paramedic for over 20 years.
After this many years I started working for company that had a
slower work day. I was referred to this company by a friend. I set
up an interview 2 days after I called.
At the interview the "boss" said I came highly recommended by 5
other medics. I started the next day. I was working for the company
30 days. On the 30th day I was 2 hours into my regular shift when
the "boss" called me to his office. He told be I was a good
employee, did an excellent job, always put my patients first but
that he had to let me go. He offered no other explanation. He just
told me to go "chew" on it for awhile.
I asked what I did wrong. He said he was going to just leave it at
that. I applied for unemployment benefits and was denied based on
"insubordination". The reason given to me by the unemployment office
was a statement by my boss that he gave me a call and that I refused
to take the call. In 20 years I have never refused a call nor would
I ever refuse a call.
I emailed my boss to get the names and contact info. for the owners
since they are the next people in step above my boss. There is no
one else above him except for the owners. He has refused to give me
the info and all my internet searches for them gets me no where. My
boss asked why I wanted the info and I explained that I wanted to
tell them what happened and file a complaint. I also told my boss
what was told to me from the unemployment office. He emailed me back
that he never said any of that. I have a copy of the statement and
it does state that he said I refused to take a call. He again
emailed me that he never said that. I called him a liar. Both he and
the HR dept. will not give me the owner’s contact info. I so want to
get back at him and/or the company.
Thanks, TX medic
I think you certainly have a case that a lawyer should look into.
Go to your local city hall and check the business license bureau.
The business license may have the information you seek, or at least
give you a great starting point to find the owners.
And really, have a talk with a lawyer. I have a feeling that you
were shortchanged on your employment opportunity by being hired
under false pretenses, "i.e. they didn’t intend to keep you on after
the initial employment period".
A letter from a lawyer to that effect will likely cost you a couple
of hundred dollars but start a great fear of civil action in him and
And tell everyone what happened to you.
In your business reputation is everything. Keeps yours by staying
legal in this case, unless you’re ready to start over in a new
career, in a new state.
Revenge would be simply letting this
case die out, finding new work, then slamming this ex-boss of yours
through various online websites. Maybe creating posters that have
discounts or clinics for the needy, something that will draw a lot
of unneeded people to the companies front door. Something that can’t
be traced back to you.
The Revenge Guy
I pored through your site looking for some advice
on how to handle some ex- coworkers but didn’t find anything that
really would get the results I’m looking for.
I *used* to work for a well known doctor in a large city. The office
manager has no previous experience managing people and the job fell
in her lap when the previous manager left. She is a HORRIBLE manager
and is borderline schizo in my opinion. She randomly yells at people
and will not handle staffing issues. She refuses to listen to
legitimate complaints and work related issues.
She is very close with the 22 year old girl that answers the phone
and they have a very inappropriate work relationship. I’ve had
previous run-ins with the younger girl because she likes to tell
everyone else how to do their job even though she has no degree, no
previous medical experience, and barely managed to graduate high
school before having a child through a drunken one night stand.
Patients were always complaining about her and praising me. I had
called in sick on a Monday (first time in 9 months) and when I
showed up the next day, I was being treated like a leper. Imagine my
surprise when I came in to be told I was being let go. Why I asked?
Because I had been late to work 5 times in the past year. I asked to
see my timesheet proving this. She showed me quickly a page that had
5 highlighted sections. 3 of them were previously scheduled absences
(Dr Appts that were APPROVED!) and the other 2 were clock-ins that
were 2 minutes late. She also said that I had not made up patient
charts for the day before clinic. I explained that I had done the
entire week before I left Friday. It didn’t make sense that I would
make Tue-Fri and not Monday. I, of course, can’t PROVE that I did
Now I’m out the door and strangely relieved. I sent several
applications out but after the first interviews I wasn’t getting
called back. I checked with a friend at one place who told me that
the receptionist was the one verifying my employment and was saying
nasty things about me. I filed a complaint with the state but that
moves slowly and I want to add a personal touch to the sleazy office
manager who unfairly fired me and her little sidekick. I’ve thought
about the magazine subscriptions and having porn site emails done
and whatnot, but it’s just not satisfying enough. Have any good
Dave (Just called me Blacklisted ? )
I have to agree with you, porn emails are not enough, heck, they
aren’t even a good start.
Step one of your revenge:
Have a appointment with the boss, the doctor and have a real
discussion about why you were let go and the avenues of recompense
that are available to you. He should already be aware of the
complaint you have lodged with state employment and be willing to
Record everything. Write it all down, keep a micro-recorder with
you, turn it on.
As for a personal touch, if this was me, I’d stand outside the
building talking with patients. Have them sign a petition about how
great a person you were and how they feel badly for you being
treated this way.
Create a little public commotion.
As long as you have an honest record you should bear this out well.
Heck, call a TV news station to watch your one-person protest.
And for complete revenge I’d overload
the phone answerer with calls to the awful manager with pleads for
help from people that have read a poster you put out offering high
dollar employment with no experience. let her fend that off for a
The Revenge Guy